Relational Skills Assessment
An assessment couples take separately that maps six relational skills and shows where your pictures of the relationship agree and differ.
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Relational Tools
Team Collaboration Lab
An interactive tool for teams to diagnose and improve their collaboration dynamics.
Learn more →189 Questions for Assessing Kindness and Humility
189 questions distilled from thousands of sources, organized across 35 dimensions of kindness and humility — from empathic perception to intellectual honesty.
Read the article →128 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Choosing a Partner
A self-administered instrument for evaluating a partner across five dimensions of character, capability, compatibility, chemistry, and clarity, using only what you have directly observed.
Read the article →Social Skills and How to Develop Them
89 skills organized by the seven phases of a social interaction — from the life you build between conversations to the moment you walk away.
Read the article →The Three Questions of Indirect Assessment
You can't know who someone is by asking them directly. Here is a method for seeing who someone really is — where to stand, over what time, in which conditions.
Read the article →Advanced Psychological Interview Questions
Ten questions designed to reveal character, integrity, tenacity, and relational capacity in high-stakes hiring conversations.
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Before You Advise: Nine Questions for More Effective Advising
Asking better questions enables you to give better advice. This book has the questions you should be asking — derived from studying where the most capable people in history got stuck — to lead higher value conversations with your clients. It's written for attorneys, financial advisors, coaches, therapists, consultants, family office managers, and anyone else whose work involves helping clients think through consequential choices.
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The Essence of ADHD
ADHD has mostly been understood by its name: an attentional deficit. These are my notes on what I think is actually going on — what ADHD is, how it works, and how to build a life working with it.
Read the article →The Biases of the Biases
I spent the last year trying to figure out how to actually use the 200+ cognitive biases in my life. Ended up tracking down every classification system I could find, and refactoring them into a more useful framework.
Read the article →A Theory of Harmony
A first-principles approach to musical harmony — what harmony is, how it works, and why it moves us.
Download PDF →Foundational Skills for Advanced Mixed Martial Artists
That the skills are defined by an integrated set of choices that demonstrate positioning, technique, and presence.
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