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Ben's Natural Grounding Adventure..

Postby dominance » Fri Aug 28, 2009 12:08 pm

A thread to post my journal. I haven't really been keeping one and want to start so thought I may aswell do it on the forum to share with others.

I know I have a few other posts I made to reply to, I will do that soon, just gonna post this and then i'm going out with some friends.

A few new things I tried tonight while watching Nicole Theriault. Tried some of the afformations suggested by I think Shay e.g "why is it okay to get emotional" etc. And also some Sedona Method 'holistic grounding', which I just learnt, which is taking dualities and releasing on them (opposites) because everything has one (eg with good there is bad, with up there is down) so I was releasing a bit on "Could I let go of becoming emotional" and "Could I let go of not becoming emotional".. one after another.

I also was visualizing myself and Nicole as energy and visualizing our hearts and her energy coming into my chest, a white energy, and flowing throughout my body.

Got some tears, more than I have for ages (this is also one of my challenges) but I got other things.. felt alot of energy throughout my body and started to get hard and you know the feeling when your coming close to an orgasm, like its pushing out through your cock just making you push up to release it.. I was getting that energy all over, kind of like I was having a whole body orgasm (not hugely intense, but enough to be very pleasurable). And the whole time I could see her natural sexuality. I admit sex did pop into my head briefly a few times but it was outpowered by the natural energy.

Another thing that happened which never has during grounding.. my heart started beating quite fast while I could feel this energy connection.. great combination, the 'energy orgasm' while my heart was beating faster, felt awesome! :)

I ended up watching most of the VCD and did some EFT with afformations.. and talked to my friend and a few people are going out. I actually have some energy in my body that I would usually interpret as nervous energy.. not feeling that great at the moment despite the great grounding session. But I am kind of looking forward to going out too. So I will see what happens.

Oh one more thing I thought of today.. I have a big problem where I get upset when girls don't become attracted to me or show me signs. And I have been noticing the ones that are lately have more natural energy or atleast the ones able to show it in my presence.

So I thought of a good reframe, a much better thought is realizing that some girls are just not able to react to my energy and it is their problem. Some are blocked and just can't bring out their own natural energy in my presence.. so I will just leave that problem to them and focus on the ones who are able to connect with my energy on this level and really experience it because those are the ones worth while.

I've got to stop putting it on me "oh shes not attracted" and feeling bad. Instead realize that its their own blockages stopping them from experiencing the pleasure of the energy. I will experiment with this thought tonight.

-Ben
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Postby dominance » Sun Aug 30, 2009 3:18 pm

Last night was my sisters 21st party.. had it in our shed. I grounded before I went out to the party. Got a similar experience with the 'energy orgasm' but not as strong.

But actually felt like crap after it. Like i'm starting to get more emotional while grounding but maybe i'm purging something because things seem worse even after these intense sessions. After a few hours I just had to get away from the party.. and went in my room and did some more grounding and it relaxed me a bit.

I kind of like one of my sisters friends, but I don't know what to think, because my sister lies alot and says different things, she said she was with this guy my sister used to go out with, then that he wasn't coming because they had a fight. He come and him and this girl didn't seem like they were together, but I didn't make a move because I was told they were. Then after they left I said "so their not going out anymore?" to my sister and she was like "no they never were". So I have decided I am going to chase it up myself and find out from the girl and see if I want to pursue it further.

Not much else to report that night, just was in quite a low mood.

Had an interesting experience today. I gave into the porn trap and masturbated, its getting less regular, so i'm getting there. Anyway went to the supermarket with a friend about a hour later. Was looking at some chocolate on special. Some girl come over looking at me, you could assume she wanted the chocolate, but she didn't even look at it, just stood there looking shy, I said something to her and she replied and looked happy.. then I didn't have much to say and she kind of went all shy and then walked off. After that I realized she approached me.. too bad I didn't realize when it happened. She looked a bit disappointed I didn't continue. Now it seems obvious because the supermarket was quiet and she come right over looking at me and stood there.

Then she walked past again smiling big, but now she was with someone who looked like her dad. And when she walked past again she slowed down to look. I'm not a fan of talking to girls with their parents around, maybe because i've never really got along well with parents. Otherwise I would have approached her.

Anyway, after I realized it was an approach. I thought about it and it hit me, she looked quite similar to who was in the porn I watched before I left the house but also had some natural energy.. what the hell.. very strange :shock:
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What.. you have no idea?!

Postby dominance » Sun Sep 06, 2009 6:17 am

Grounded in alpha male and natural female sexuality briefly before going out (about a half an hour). I'm not going to go into huge detail, I can't be fucked tying 'field reports' as I used to, theres no point, I just want to enjoy my life.

It was one of those nights it all seems to happen at once. One girl i've talked to briefly, seen her, she grabbed my hand and dragged me across the room to the dance floor to go see her friend, it was funny, I was getting high fives from guys on the way and heard the comment 'hes a player' haha. But the dancefloor isn't somewhere i'm comfortable so I hugged them both and then went to walk off, come to think of it I should have danced with the first one, but dancing is something i've never been comfortable with at all. Anyway on my way off at the dancefloor, I feel someone kick me, and there was another girl i've talked to a bit sitting there smiling. Then I went after satting and talking with her a bit.

A bit later the first girl was outside near a heater, talked to her and she mentioned "I have a hole in my stocking" and pulled up her skirt a bit to show me.. I said "oh any excuse to show me your leg" she gave me a funny look like 'yes your right' and said "yeah i've got a hole there" and showed me again haha.. so I lightly brushed my finger on her thigh and I had the feeling it was "on" as you could put it.

Then some old grubby dude come over, I wasn't sure if she knew him, but he goes "what are you doing" to her, I could sense a bit of anger in him, maybe jealousy towards me. One of my challenges it staying comfortable when this happens, because I shut down and didn't know what to do and just walked off and talked to a friend, so unfortunately his tactic worked how he hoped.

Then the girl I sat with earlier come out and started hugging me.

Had other interactions with her during the night, like I was sitting on a chair and she come over, I said "I saved a seat for you" and patted my knee, so she sat on my knee. Had a guy come over I kind of know and making a running motion with his fingers going "run away from her".. I went to talk to him later to ask why and he had no reason specifically and I remembered he has done that to me several times, so I put it down to some problem he has, maybe jealousy. Because hes never been able to give good reasons for it.

This is getting a bit long, just got a couple more important bits.

Ended up dropping her friend home after the place closed, then said to her "you coming to my place" and she did... kissed her a bit, on the neck etc.. she loved it but said "oh don't do that now, its mean, its getting me too excited etc" (because it was 'that time of the month'). So I ended up just saying "don't worry, come here" and hugged her.

One big change in me was I really did not care, I would have liked sex, but I know that it will happen after spending more time with her and just wanted to enjoy her company. Hugged a bit and ended up taking her home, got her number, she gave me a big kiss and left.

Something she started talking about was very interesting.

To put it simply was something like "do you have any idea how sexy you are, and how many girls check you out".. I was legitimately surprised, I seem blind to this.. sometimes I notice it but my limiting beliefs cause me to make excuses and rationalize it away.. when I asked questions about it she seemed really surprised "oh my god, you really have no idea do you?" (as in 'all these girls are checking you out and think your sexy and you are blind to it') I said "have you seen alot of girls check me out and she said "yes all the time"..

Wow, this is a serious blindspot, I did have alot of girls flirting with me last night, but something stupid in my head was like "nah their not attracted its.. blah blah whatever"..

Fuck, I have to get this reality into my head, all these people seem to think i'm with all these women, it has been said several times, but what really happens is my insecurity stops me from acting on most of it and makes excuses so nothing happens.

Reminds me of the movie "Swingers".. the line that Trent (a player type) says to his friend.. "Your so money and you don't even know it"...

I do seem to have alot of girls I have opportunities with and then don't make a move when I have the chance and they get upset and don't talk to me much anymore.. i'm thinking they just reakon i'm a snob and not interested and feel they have put themselves out there and got rejected.. when i'm there wanting to do something but making excuses.. funny that.. they must think i'm a snob..

-Ben
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Postby vegano » Sun Sep 06, 2009 10:17 am

Great post, dominance. Seems like we both has some interesting insights last night :) Altough your insights are more desirable :D

Some questions to your post. Do you think all this comes from Natural Grounding? Did you have some moments in the evening where you conciously had to say to yourself "I'm the stimulus" or did everything just flow?

Thank you for your posts :)
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Postby dominance » Sun Sep 06, 2009 1:52 pm

Thank you for your posts


Thanks. Though I am not doing anything groundbreaking. I am not doing anything anywhere near I know I am capable.. i'm letting certain things stop me. I have realized alot of us here seem to have this big problem in what were doing so not getting many physical results. I will post on that soon.

Some questions to your post. Do you think all this comes from Natural Grounding? Did you have some moments in the evening where you conciously had to say to yourself "I'm the stimulus" or did everything just flow?


Natural grounding alone and doing nothing else, putting in no other effort isn't going to help much. I am doing other things like Sedona Method, EFT, Self-Hypnosis. And going out in the world more. Combining things I feel is good.

For example, I am working on becoming slimmer. So I have started going for walks. I take my ipod and listen to a sedona method recording and get lost in that while walking and the time flies. And I also say hi to some people on the way to practice being more social.

One advantage I may have in the club I was in is that I used to work there and am more comfortable there. But.. at first when I started going there after quitting, that the girls were giving attention because they thought I was security still and they wanted something (a big limiting belief that is build through that job, because in that situation its common). But now alot know I don't anymore, and i've made it a point to emphasize that, some ignore me but several of them are still really happy to see me and all over me. So seems genuine enough.

I didn't really stop and think about it, I was kind of in flow when the stuff was happening, a few times I shut down and was uncomfortable and didn't know what to do, but when that happened I went for a walk to find something else to do and tried to interrupt that.

I've found standing in a club going 'I am attractive.. I am attractive" in yuor head or something does fuck all.. just makes you feel worse when your belief is that your not. Some afformations seem to help in your head too at times, but I didn't think of that last night.

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Postby aztecsfinest » Sun Sep 06, 2009 5:34 pm

Wow...
This is almost Kindred style stuff to me! The kind of results I've wanted. Well, the feelng of being able to do it that is, not for any kind of external or egoic benefit, I'll call it "confidence" for the laugh! Is why I'm doing Yang Grounding.

I've been studying Self Hypnosis since I was 18,to make me confident in myself, nasty depression and axieties and everything too, I say to make a point.

I also tried Hypnotica, Paul McKenna and some other techniques I came up with to make me a natural or to even feel good about myself. Unfortunately, nothing really worked, not for long enough and I was looking for permanent results. The only thing that gave me permanent results was Nathaniel Branden, Kindred uses it too I think that will give you pretty much everything you need as far as character goes.

Self hypnosis is good for a few very awesome things though! I'm gonna get a degree in 2011!

Yang grounding makes you more authentic and comfortable with it I discovered.


I think you did the right thing walking away from that angry jealous guy, I'd have done the same, no point in engaging in a conflict (a co-dependency!) over a girl. I doubt she was all that in to him afterwards anyway.

By the way, guys do that to me all the time! On my 20th birthday, I was with a gay friend of mine and his friend. Every time I talked to a girl he'd get all weird on me, push me or something, I was telling all of them I met that I loved them! Got some smiles!

He was very closed off toward the end of the day, that and he kept getting insecure and "praising Satan" every time we passed a church... Dork...

Enough Yang grounding, a simpe look and a raised eyebrow would make them go away. I petrified two salesmen at the door during my The Architect.


I love this post, it's inspiring to me! This is what's possible once I'm comfortable with my masculinity!

Thank you!
At my 21st, in a terrible drunken mood, these other two girls tried to rape me:P So it has nothing to do with how you feel!

Were you saying that you got to talk to women at a club? Weren't they getting all social?
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Postby aztecsfinest » Sun Sep 06, 2009 5:41 pm

dominance wrote: Was looking at some chocolate on special. Some girl come over looking at me, you could assume she wanted the chocolate, but she didn't even look at it, just stood there looking shy, I said something to her and she replied and looked happy.. then I didn't have much to say and she kind of went all shy and then walked off. After that I realized she approached me.. too bad I didn't realize when it happened. She looked a bit disappointed I didn't continue. Now it seems obvious because the supermarket was quiet and she come right over looking at me and stood there.


By the way this happened to me! Except I got tackled!!!

What you say about the porn star thing kinda proves something Cory Skyy says. "Girls are putting themselves out there all the time, except guys have all this garbage on their magnet and so they don't see it!"
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